There was a call today for “a day without women” as a protest against President He Who Shall Not Be Named. Women were encouraged to stay home from work or to wear red in protest. It’s also International Women’s Day.
I decided to wear red, but I didn’t stay home from work. I challenged the patriarchy by going to work today. Helping women. It was important for me to go to work today, because I’ve been struggling a LOT the past few weeks. Last week I was tempted to quit my job, and just accept that I’m not “able” enough to pass as normal, not “able” enough to continue working, too sick to keep pushing through.
But I realize that the patriarchy wants nothing more than for me to fail. My abuser wants me to fail, I think he wants me to crash and burn and commit suicide.
So for me going to work today was an act of defiance and resilience. It was me overcoming the panic attacks as I got ready, left the house and drove to work. It was me ignoring the negative self talk which was telling me that everyone hated me and that I should just quit. It was me saying that I won’t give up, I won’t give the system the satisfaction of seeing me fail.
Failure isn’t an option. I have to be “well enough” and “able” enough to keep going forward. I need to do it for my children and for people who are depending on me. I know I could be replaceable at work, but my kids only have one mother. So I’ve decided to take better care of myself, to rest and to try to move at a pace that is sustainable and won’t exhaust me to the point of panic and wanting to quit my job. I’m going to do the best I can, but that best might not be what others are able to do. Right now, I have to do what I am capable of, what I am able to, and stop judging myself against standards I’m not always able to meet.
So for International Women’s Day, I left the house. I battled panic attacks but I did not let them stop me. I tried to focus on my ability rather than my DIS-ability. I did my best and for today, maybe that was good enough.
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I think it was more than good enough and shows how healthy you are! You recognized that what you are able to do without harming yourself may not be the same amount as some others, however…. it may be more than some others too! SO proud of how far you have come!